We welcome our “Bundle of Joy”- I find such status message in the Social Media put up by all the new generation parents, who celebrate the arrival of a new life in a most innovative and grand manner.
From the day a couple discovers that a new life is beginning it’s journey in the womb, we see them also beginning a new life along with the baby. And needless to say how current generation treats the new arrival — pre-photo shoot, post-photo shoot, pregnancy videos, delivery videos — innovation at it’s height.But, does all these happiness sustain long enough or do the parents really put forth this happiness even while bringing up the kids in this society. I recently encountered a family who had 2 kids, a boy around 10 years of age and a girl around 5 years of age. I was shopping with my 5 year daughter and suddenly heard a loud scream. The Mom was scolding the boy at the top of her voice right in midst of the supermarket and the boy din’t dare to look an inch away from his Mom’s eyes. I am not sure what big offence did the boy do, but the Mom was slapping and twisting his ears, least bothered about the surrounding and most of all, least bothered about her own son’s feelings. This incident totally shut my day and I still feel pity for the boy, because after all those harsh words and slaps, the boy followed the Mom home. I can still remember the way the boy tried hard to control his tears, but poor thing, his mom wouldn’t stop till she saw tears rolling his cheeks.
I did feel pity for the boy, but I felt more pity for the Mom because, that day he was not just following his Mom to home, but he had learnt one hard lesson from his Mom, and the consequence of that lesson would definitely be hard on her in future.
Parent’s who celebrate the arrival of a New Life, fail to keep up the same feeling throughout their period of bringing their kids up in this vulnerable society. Kids do make mistakes and it is a responsibility of the Parents to caution them, but there are ways kids could be warned, tamed, and corrected.
We read and share a lot of Do’s and Don’ts about Parenting in the social media articles, but reading and sharing is of least use, if we easily are prone to forget it at adverse situations, where we need to control our emotions and also be empathetic to our Kids’ feeling. All these are definitely going to be a part in how a child is going to be transformed into an able Citizen.
Parents of this generation are ready to spend money on kids but what stays more important is not the Money, but it is the Emotion that we need to invest in our Kids, because Money is perishable, and Emotions will stay hard enough to keep relations together forever.
What you Sow, So you REAP — we need to sow time for the Kids, and so we’ll reap the same at our Final Days.